Join me in an exploration of the Me AND You Universe, a concept introduced to me eight years ago by Diane Poole Heller. She described an interpersonal Me AND You universe; I have found that idea applies also to our intra-personal and transpersonal experience.
In one of her modules of her DARe Training, Diane teaches about how the Me AND You Universe contrasts with the Me OR You Universe. She calls each state of mind a universe because they are a lived reality that is exclusive of other realities in a person’s experience. Most of us live in the You OR Me Universe. Unfortunately, our early attachment experiences lead us to the conclusion that we can have either ourselves or the other, me or you. In Pathwork terms we might call this a Main Image. It’s a belief that “if I have you, then I lose myself, and if I have me, I lose you.” This is a duality of consciousness or psychological splitting which is very painful. The way this often shows up for me is that I am loving being with you, but also can’t wait for some “quiet time”. Then when I am alone and have this “quiet time” I am missing being with you. Either way there is a tinge of dissatisfaction and a lack of wholeness.
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