How many of us have come away from an interaction with a friend or relative and thought – wow that was unsatisfying!
It is often puzzling as this drawing suggests — what did I bring to the interaction — what did they bring? What happened?
I had such an experience last week with a dear friend and colleague. It was so inspiring to unravel what happened and feel the regret for my part.
Brene Brown defines connection from her research as:
“Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard and valued; when they can give and receive without judgement; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
I retraced my steps with my friend. I am deep into the study of ‘near enemies’ of connection and compassion. They are these tricky/masquerading moments when we make a comment or add something to the conversation that looks like a kind, responsive contribution but actually stops the connection cold.