What is unique about Trauma work and Pathwork® Combined?
In the early stages of Pathwork® we find the real trauma we experienced as a child. It is often a traumatic environment of not been seen, discounted for our individuality, general negativity with a lack of responsibility and repair opportunities. As young children in this environment we have only two tools. We either make our selves bad (shame) or make the other bad (blame). We are unable to see the world in any other terms. Typically because we need and depend on the people around us we believe we are bad. This belief can be very unconscious yet informs most of our adult tasks and experiences.
Excavating these places and learning to see the world and ourselves in different terms is a long-term process.
In traditional trauma therapy and in early Pathwork the best resolution is to find compassion for our caretakers and ourselves and challenge the beliefs that have kept us hostage. Today I would call this victim compassion and suggest that is not the real lasting healing step in the process. It is an important step to be witnessed, “this really happened and the affect on you is real.” And the corrective experience that a therapist can provide, within the relational field can be very significant.
However until we can see how some of these negative environmental influences have crept under our own skins, how we now duplicate the negativity as part of our defense system – we cannot truly heal. As we embrace with support and love the way in which we have turned from the victim into the perpetrator with our own defenses, vowing to never be hurt or vulnerable again then the healing begins. We begin to move from the hard pain to the soft pain that can actually move and release.
Under these defenses, the coldness of not really taking another in, of defending our positions in life, of seeing things more empty than full we find our real wounds. This is our true vulnerability and until we can fully meet these places we cannot truly give ourselves true acceptance and compassion. We must follow the whole thread all the way through. It was our best and most elegant way to survive.
At this level there is such self-empowerment and true self-knowledge. How can anyone shame you when you know yourself through and through? You have already been there and owned your deepest self, your darkest strategies with love. You are FREE.