Beyond Broken

Relationship

Safe Passages To Intimacy and Passion – Change of Format – 2 Spaces Left – Register by September 1st!

With Tom and Wendy Hubbard

An  In person Course, September – December 2018

By delving into the deepest levels of desire and conflict that generate our fantasies and sexual preferences, we can stop feeling as though we are victims of alien sexual impulses and compassionately appreciate our own needs and foibles.

As sexual shame dissolves in response to insight, our capacity to enjoy our sexuality increases. Even more importantly, as we understand our sexuality we understand ourselves.

Two In person weekends are in Charlottesville, Saturday 10am till Sunday at 4:00pm

Passages to Intimacy and Passion Fall 2018 Dates:

October 13th and 14th 

December 15th and 16th

The Class also includes one personal or couples session between October and December to map your own sexuality and find your own compassion, understanding and freedom from shame and joyful sexual expression. 

Cost is $795.00 per person. Overnight and meals are on your own. Snacks and drinks provided 

Course limited to 12 people – contact Wendy   whubbard0@gmail.com  to register 

 

 

Redemption

Redemption

An act of redeeming or atoning for a fault or mistake and returning to a state of being redeemed.

Here is what happened for me. I married my husband when I was 26. I was a very young 26. I needed a mother and a father as much as I wanted a husband. He was going to make up for all my losses — a happy ending to a sad life.

It wasn’t so easy. He had two young boys in our care. They were 5 and 7 and had lots of NEEDS. I did not understand what it meant to be a wife, let alone a mother. I did my best at each of those tasks and I wasn’t very good at them. Most of the time I was resentful of everyone else’s needs and competed with them for my husbands attention. And I was so afraid to love. What if they did not love me back? I had no understanding of, or way to hold this negativity inside. The little boys were cute, creative and so smart. How could I feel so mean? I hated myself ­— guilt, fear and resentment forming a toxic mix….

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Are you keeping ‘cool’ this summer or succumbing to the heat?

 

Are you keeping ‘cool’ this summer or succumbing to the heat?

Learn more about what happens in our brain during ‘cool’ and ‘hot’ moments and what huge differences it makes in our relationships.

We are only three weeks into the summer and already there has been a lot to learn.  Most of us continuously find ourselves judging others and making assumptions about other people’s behaviors. We do this continuously in a scanning function in our brain. These assumptions justify our defensive behaviors. Our untested ‘realities’ give rise to disconnection, wall building and subtle and not so subtle negativity in our relationships.
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Our Investment In Our Grievances

“Holding on to my grievances give me a sense of power, which protects me from feeling vulnerable. It’s a way of standing up for myself and defending myself from being hurt, disappointed, or rejected again. It keeps me vigilant”

This hardening of our hearts is the ‘beast’ in us. It is the wounded beauty that has lost faith in itself because it was never fully seen or recognized.

“What keeps the wound and hardening from healing is not knowing that we are lovely and loveable just as we are while imagining that other people hold the key to this.”

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Understanding Is Not A Luxury

We are so often misunderstood that we begin to believe that understanding is a luxury. Even our closest friends or partners who listen attentively but then quickly try and fix us feels mis-attuned.

I am not sure how we come to live without understanding and stop our protests. Do we just assume we will be misunderstood and give up?

We might find a slight postural stance and freeze in our bodies. A small shrug – one shoulder up higher than the other – our head turned to the side – the body clearly saying, “whatever”.

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